I've come to realize that this question is normal around here. It’s a great conversation starter, along with, “how is your garden coming along?”
But today, I'm not talking about solar and what kind of inverter you have going on. I do love hearing about your gardens though!
My question is where do YOU get your power from? What are YOU running on?
Are you tapped into your own power system, or are you trying to get your power from other people or “things”? Is your power system running smoothly? Or does it seem like no matter what you do, you just can't get your batteries charged up?
Being self-sufficient can also mean knowing how to tune into our power and noticing when our batteries are low. And if something is blocking our energy, it would be good to clear whatever that is! We don't want to damage anything because this system is irreplaceable!
How Trauma Blocks Our Power System.
During times of stress or trauma, our first natural instinct is to look for another person to help us. When we have that social engagement, when we feel safe, we run smoothly. If, for some reason, we don't have that option, or the people around us aren't safe, our nervous system switches to its next best option; fight or flight. But if we can't fight what is happening and can't run away from it, we go into the most primal survival response—freeze mode.
This is when trauma gets stuck in the body, and that's when we can start to see symptoms appear.
There are many different symptoms of trauma.
Sleep problems, weakened immunity, and migraines are just some examples of the physical symptoms.
Having constant underlying anxiety, toxic shame, and mood swings are some examples of emotional symptoms.
Loss of meaning and purpose, feeling like a failure, and feeling stuck are motivational and cognitive symptoms.
These symptoms block our power, and if we don't know how to bring our system back into well-being and switch off the freeze mode, we can feel like our lights are turned down low. Even if we were able to fight or flight, we might still be holding on to trauma. And the tricky thing is sometimes we don't develop symptoms right away; we keep doing what we always have done without any problems. But then, almost out of the blue, symptoms can start to show up years later.
I like to explain what trauma release is like with the tabletop and table legs metaphor. Imagine that having constant underlining anxiety and sleep problems are the “tabletop”. All of the traumatic memories are the table legs. In essence, when we clear a traumatic memory with trauma release, we remove one of those table legs. Eventually, without the legs, the tabletop goes away. The symptoms go away. And boom!
Power is back on!!
So, if you feel trauma might be the reason you're experiencing power issues, please be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you! Something happened to you, and you just need to release it so you feel tapped into your power again.
I am definitely not the person to call if you need a new solar system, but I would love to walk with you on this healing journey. We can do this together.
Sandika Joy is an unconventional woman who has taken the path less traveled. Literally. After leaving family and friends in her hometown in Manitoba, Canada, Sandika Joy moved to beautiful Lasqueti Island, an off-the-grid retreat haven on the west coast of Canada and has spent the last four years building her home and business.
As a certified life and empowerment coach, Sandika now offers empowerment adventures, retreats, and coaching for women who are ready to immerse themselves in nature while learning how to trust in themselves and life again!